Monday, June 30, 2008

The right decision

First let me say that I love my job. But I am not appreciated by my boss at all. She brags to her co workers and her boss about my work ethics. She even praises me in front of her audience at the time. When she does not have anyone around she talks to me like I am a piece of dirt. She talks about me like I was the worse employee she ever has had in her professional life (she talks about akll her staff & my nurses work hard, so I am not the only one). Anyone and everyone has told me that out of all her Deparment Assistants (DA) I am the best. However she does not show this side to me. She supports me with school and that is it. An higher up staff memeber told me to apply for a position at northlake because she knows how mt boss is(My boss is called the hospital nurse and DA supplier, because everyone quits or go to another unit). I was interviewed last week for another position here at the hospital for what I do now. I was offered the job on the spot. I did not tell my boss due tome not knowing if I was going to take the job. Well she found out and told me to post my position so that she could hire someone promptly. I advised her that I have not accepted the position. She then wanted to talk to me. Mind you she was on vacation this past week and this happened Friday. She came into work Friday afternoon and we sat down and talk. I told her how I felt. I did not hold anything back, because I had another job if she got upset. Well she begged me to stay. I told her I would. I wonder if I made the correct decision by doing this. I know more abuse and hatred will come my way from her but I love my job and my staff. I hope the fact of loosing me made her open her eyes and see what she has in front of her. I will accept any advice in this matter.

6 comments:

nikitah said...

Was the job you interviewed for the same rate of pay? I think for piece of mind I would have had to take the other job. But I understand liking where you are currently but if you are subject to such verbal abuse I would have been jumping at the chance for piece of mind. I hope she doesn't sabotage any other future advancement opportunities for you.

Mirabel said...

i know how you feel about your job.i had a friend that went through the same things.Her boss was so mean to her and,critizing every single thing she does.Talking of hair she wore to shoes on her feet yet she was one of the best nurses ever.Eventually,she had to quit the job because she couldn't take the insult and assult any longer.

Tariq said...

I would suggest you to join the new hospital. Because, your boss is not a child. Elder's can switch their habits easily. I think it's in her nature. You will see a lot of bosses like her. But for me the main thing is the peace of mind. Money comes later. If i would be in your shoes, i will quit the job right away.

LaurenU said...

I would take the other job. Quite simply, your boss will probably revert back to her old ways after a few months. Due to the fact it is obvious she loses a lot of employees, and she has to have noticed, and still treats her current employees badly, she will not change permanently.
I would go ahead and take the other position, because the next time you are tired of her behavior, you may not have another job opportunity immediately available.

Jacky G said...

Bilette,

Leopards do not change their spots so drastically. She only wants you to stay because she does not want to any extra work herself. This type of manager is horrible to work for and you will find many of them in every job field. I know you like your staff, but if they are that close to you, you can see them outside of work. If the other job is better pay, I say make the switch. Sometimes it's better to simplify life. So you need to ask yourself, "what is best for me right now'? Will this stress you out morechanging jobs right in the middle summer classes that are probably kicking your butt, plus other things in life? or will it improve your life? I like the saying, "things are always changing and they never stay the same" It's very true. Good luck!

billette said...

Hey everyone thanks for your input. I will keep everyone posted on how it goes.