Have you ever been so mad at a person you felt like you hated them, even though they are someone you love very much?
Thats how I feel about my husband right now. I hate how he's being such a deadbeat lately. I have to nag and nag and nag to where I feel like I am his mom. I have gotten up every day with the kids this week-- this morning was supposed to be my turn to sleep in. I even reminded him before I went to bed. What does he do? Stay up until 6AM and now refuses to get out of bed. The kids got up at 7:30AM.
I am really fed up with his behavior, and have told him so. Ever since he quit his job in September!! he's been basically useless. He helps with the kids (sort of) while I do my schoolwork, but thats it. I worked up until I had the baby, and now he is supposed to find a job, but is dragging his feet. We are rapidly depleting our savings, and I just want to slap him back into his senses. Ever since he stopped working, its like he lost his sense of motivation. He doesn't do anything on his own-- I have to nag him to clean anything. I do ALL the laundry, and he won't even help put it away.
He is still in bed, and even though I've been waking him up over and over, he refuses to get up.
I'm at my breaking point. I really really just want to hurt him. WHERE did the man I married go? When did he turn into such a lazy disgusting slob?
Ugh... I'm just going to go outside, take some deep breaths, and then maybe start the process all over again to get him up.
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Hey Lauren,
You know what? I think all men are the same. Yours is not different. If you interview one or two women out there, you will find out that you are not the only one experiencing this ordeal. You can only do so much. What I do to make my husband help me out especially when it comes to laundry is this: I dump the clothes on his side of the bed so that when he comes to sleep, he will see that there is no room for him, and that will make him take the clothes out. It doesn't work all the time but at least 90% which is not bad. I am still trying to find a way he can at least help out with the household chores. Sometimes, I pardon him because he is pursuing a master's degree, and that takes up most of his time. I also make him understand that I am in school too. Anyway, just find out what works for you. All I can tell you is, take one day at a time.
Lauren, I understand how you feel. My husand helps out sometimes but I feel like he can do more. I know you are frustrated, I would be too knowing that we are slowly depleting our savings, something has to give. Pray about it, sometimes nagging makes it worse. Stay strong!
I think you should just tell your husband like it is. I am not married but my boyfriend and I live together. When it comes to getting him to do things around the house I just tell him, look we are both adults here, if I wanted a child to take care of I wouldn't be with a 26 year old man. Take some responsibility. This usually works for me. He can't stand the thought of me saying he is acting like a teenage child.
I do tell him how I feel. Believe me, I am a very blunt person, lol!
Hey Lauren,
I have been married two years and my husband is not the man I married. You most definitely have to pray on it. Take in account of how he may be feeling. He may be somewhat depressed. I am sure he wants to provide for his family. I am sure he not happy with his situation. Let him know how you are feeling also continue to be supportive. DO NOT NAG THAT MAN!!! That is one reason a man cheats or leaves his wife. It drives them crazy in a bad way.
You need to support him at this time. He is passing through a rough patch in his life. So just be supportive that is all about marriage to support each other in difficult time. Hopefully everything will be fine soon for you.
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