Wednesday, July 2, 2008
Trouble in Paradise
My brother got married almost 3 months ago to a girl that he has dated for years. Everything was great in their relationship until now. My new sister in law tells me that he has completely changed since they have gotten married, which really confuses me. I can not see a difference in him, but I am not his wife. Why is it that so many times everything is great in a relationship then after the marriage everything falls apart? This scares me because I have dated this great guy for 2 years, we live together and have a very loving relationship. I am worried that he may change after marriage. I am heart broken for my brother and his wife because I have seen how much they really love each other. Now after only 3 months of marriage they are considering divorce. Hopefully this is only a phase and they will become stronger together for going through it, but what are your thoughts on this. What do you believe is a reasonable amount of time to date someone before marriage? What do you think is a reasonable age to get married? Why do you think marriage puts such a strain on a relationship?
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when it comes to marriage i think the 2 really need to be truely in love not just love each other but be in real love where they will do anything for the other. a good age is based on the relationship to me.
Okay Brittney,
Marriage is an institution. When it comes to marriage, the number of years you date a guy is not relevant. I do not believe in dating, so my views may sound wierd to some people. Age is just a number. The question is are you matured enough - spirit, soul, and body to get married? I have two sisters. The first one got married at 22years, and the second one got married at the age of 20. They are still married, and both marriages are 16 and 15years old. Another question is this - Is divorce one of your options or are you willing, and ready to work things out? I will not tell you that the road is easy but there is joy in marriage.
Tell both your sister's I said Congratulations becasause that is an achievement.
yap,that's how works sometimes.Commitment is a scary thing for some people so they tend to fight all the time to justify themselves.But if your brother and his wife truely love each other,they'll surely make it work.
Christy,
I am not sure why some couples when they get married everything seems to fall apart. I met my husband in a chat room online 10 years ago. We have been married for 7 years. We have our differences but we alway get through them. We NEVER go to bed angry with each other. I think a marriage takes work daily. Even being married for many years, you still have to work on keeping the "spark" there. I wish your brother and new sister-in-law all the best and i hope they can sit down and work out whatever it is putting a strain on their marriage so soon.
Thats why I am not trying to prepare myself to get married because it takes patience. Sometimes just because you are in love , doesn't mean that you should get married. I've looked at many relationships and notice that it is always drama the longer the relationship is.
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